Dating Diaries: What makes a single man tick?

Situated within the same realms of mystery as the birth of the universe, who shot J.F.K and is it really that important to put the toilet seat down, this week, Dating
Diaries looks at what really makes a single man tick?

Stubbornly refusing to give up its secret, in the same way as Jordan is clinging to her career, the thoughts, moods, and behavioural patterns of the modern day single male are a closely guarded secret, known only to those of the male species.

Dating diaries is here to expel all this rumour and myth, hopefully bringing our female readers some clarity into what goes on inside the head of a typical single man.

Let's start with the notion of being a single man. Really, is any man claiming to be happily single telling the truth? Some instances you can't ignore like Cliff Richard staying celibate for the best part of the 200 years, but in the main, I think bravado is the culprit here.

It is in the psyche of the modern man to 'puff' his chest and display a full plumage to all those that will take notice. Having a companion/girlfriend/wife close by means someone is always around to witness his everyday achievements such as putting the dishwasher on, or cleaning the basin after his shave.

The single man likes to be in charge. He feels in control of what he wants, and what he wants to do. This goes with the territory, believing being single means no one can tell him what to do, where to go, or what to think. On the first couple of dates, if you appear unwilling to compromise, or too head strong, then prepare for disappointment. I guarantee he will not return your calls.

Let him think he is in charge. Begin by dropping hints as to the type of date, cuisine, or wine you prefer, and, if he gets these hints, and arranges a nice date, compliment him on his choice. You'll enjoy your evening, and he'll be pleased with himself.

Follow your own timeline as to how quickly a relationship evolves, not his. This will benefit both of you as getting to know someone properly and thoroughly before taking the next step of a relationship pays dividends to the health of a new relationship.

Patience or lack of it is a common trait that many single men suffer from. Always wanting to rush, and never one step at a time, may play havoc with your self imposed time table. However, there is always a way out. By rewarding your date at the right time, and the right occasion means that the delicate balance of 'mystery', 'intrigue' and 'desire' will be firmly wedged in your favour, and keeps you in control.

The average single man only really ever has a select few things on his mind. Being slightly above average, I manage three things, 'have I got my phone, wallet and house keys?!!' Remember this when you get to know your date, allow him to digest the information you have bestowed upon him thoroughly, and leave a distinct pause before revealing anything new.

The single man is becoming rarer and rarer, and finding the right one for you, even harder. Dating Diaries appreciates that the above might also be suited for training one's dog, however, the core theme portrayed is make sure you do things your way in a way your are comfortable with.

Single men can be fickle, vain, irritating, and also quite nasty but persevere. Keep on the look out, keep your confidence, and your never know what might happen, or who will be round the corner!

Finally, Dating Diaries would like to say congratulations to Martin Huntbach, Yvonne Rea, Paul Cooper and Claire Butler, who all won our fantastic 'City Breaks' competition.

Our lucky winners will be enjoying four fabulous weekends away throughout the year in a UK city of their choosing.

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