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JFK first showed us the way when his cool exterior, and chiselled good looks, wiped the floor with Nixon & his perspiring forehead. The UK has dragged its feet, but Gordon has willingly agreed to follow suit and go head to head (hopefully not shiny and slightly damp head a la Nixon) with his opposite numbers in a live televised leader debate.

And about time!

We try to deny it, try to hide it, and some even use it to show a weakness in character, but the fundamental reason why undecided, first time or returning voters choose their candidate is more often than not based on whether they like the person?

'Dating Diaries, where are you going with this?' you ask. Simple, winning votes, and dating are based on the same fundamentals, and at the core of this is sits a good old fashioned flirt!

Flirting gets you places. Those that do it well, and by well I mean not too much, and without any 'David Brent' attributes, find it opens doors. Dating without flirtation is like Radio 2 without Terry Wogan, good, but not quite right. On a date, you need to flirt to test the waters between those islands of 'Chemistry' and 'plutonic' and depending on the strength and reception of your flirt, depends on which island that relationship will embark from.

Politicians flirt, and they do so for your vote and support. Brown and Cameron have witnessed the importance of Michelle Obama to her husbands 'vote for change' campaign, and consequently, Samantha Cameron has saucy photos splashed across the tabloids, and Sarah Brown is on Twitter!

Dating and campaigning both seek to find or provide you with the answers to the same questions. Who do you fancy, who is good for you, does your family like the person, who can provide for you the best, and finally, who do you enjoy spending time with?

Superficiality reigns supreme. The politician will try & impress with promises, and your date will try & impress with his/her personality/lifestyle/job etc. The key to both is to dig a little deeper, and make both answer specific questions relating to your own needs.

If ever there was an attempt at bringing 'sexy back' to an election, this is it. Faces are being scrutinised rather than policies, the cut of a suit is judged as 'leadership material', and the calibre, looks and impact of one's significant other is being paraded around (or pictured wearing a couple of rather short, revealing dresses in Samantha Cameron's case).

Dating Diaries says be fussy! Ask not what your country can do for you, but what a likely hung parliament will do for beverage prices, VAT prices and its effect on high street stores, compromising the likelihood of you buying those new shoes, and petrol prices for all those romantic weekends away!
Remember, flirting only goes so far, so make sure you have something concrete to base your decision on, both for your vote, and your love life.

To end, Dating Diaries has to congratulate itself a little, and mention that we have had a great start to 2010 and welcomed thousands of new online daters to our community. So, if your on the look out for love and for that special someone, click on your region below and get dating!

As if you don't hear enough of my ramblings already, I thought it might be an idea to join the 'Twitter' revolution, so if you are interested in following me please click here http://twitter.com/alexbroun

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Situated within the same realms of mystery as the birth of the universe, who shot J.F.K and is it really that important to put the toilet seat down, this week, Dating
Diaries looks at what really makes a single man tick?

Stubbornly refusing to give up its secret, in the same way as Jordan is clinging to her career, the thoughts, moods, and behavioural patterns of the modern day single male are a closely guarded secret, known only to those of the male species.

Dating diaries is here to expel all this rumour and myth, hopefully bringing our female readers some clarity into what goes on inside the head of a typical single man.

Let's start with the notion of being a single man. Really, is any man claiming to be happily single telling the truth? Some instances you can't ignore like Cliff Richard staying celibate for the best part of the 200 years, but in the main, I think bravado is the culprit here.

It is in the psyche of the modern man to 'puff' his chest and display a full plumage to all those that will take notice. Having a companion/girlfriend/wife close by means someone is always around to witness his everyday achievements such as putting the dishwasher on, or cleaning the basin after his shave.

The single man likes to be in charge. He feels in control of what he wants, and what he wants to do. This goes with the territory, believing being single means no one can tell him what to do, where to go, or what to think. On the first couple of dates, if you appear unwilling to compromise, or too head strong, then prepare for disappointment. I guarantee he will not return your calls.

Let him think he is in charge. Begin by dropping hints as to the type of date, cuisine, or wine you prefer, and, if he gets these hints, and arranges a nice date, compliment him on his choice. You'll enjoy your evening, and he'll be pleased with himself.

Follow your own timeline as to how quickly a relationship evolves, not his. This will benefit both of you as getting to know someone properly and thoroughly before taking the next step of a relationship pays dividends to the health of a new relationship.

Patience or lack of it is a common trait that many single men suffer from. Always wanting to rush, and never one step at a time, may play havoc with your self imposed time table. However, there is always a way out. By rewarding your date at the right time, and the right occasion means that the delicate balance of 'mystery', 'intrigue' and 'desire' will be firmly wedged in your favour, and keeps you in control.

The average single man only really ever has a select few things on his mind. Being slightly above average, I manage three things, 'have I got my phone, wallet and house keys?!!' Remember this when you get to know your date, allow him to digest the information you have bestowed upon him thoroughly, and leave a distinct pause before revealing anything new.

The single man is becoming rarer and rarer, and finding the right one for you, even harder. Dating Diaries appreciates that the above might also be suited for training one's dog, however, the core theme portrayed is make sure you do things your way in a way your are comfortable with.

Single men can be fickle, vain, irritating, and also quite nasty but persevere. Keep on the look out, keep your confidence, and your never know what might happen, or who will be round the corner!

Finally, Dating Diaries would like to say congratulations to Martin Huntbach, Yvonne Rea, Paul Cooper and Claire Butler, who all won our fantastic 'City Breaks' competition.

Our lucky winners will be enjoying four fabulous weekends away throughout the year in a UK city of their choosing.

This week, Dating Diaries is offering you the chance to buy the new Victoria Jackson designer cosmetics range for just £30! In this designer cosmetic range, you will receive over £150 worth of cosmetics, for the great price of £30, so make the most of the this great offer for a limited time!