Dating Diaries: Make him fall in love with you in 90 minutes.

By Alexander Broun on Feb 15, 10 04:37 PM

Dating Diaries has been busy over the festive period, researching and exploring some of so-called best dating advice and tips around. Spending hours trawling through men and woman's magazines, online dating sites & agony aunt columns, my aim was to offer our daters a sure and secure footing to push forward in this potentially uphill battle for finding love in 2010.

Uncovering some truly remarkable and downright odd advice, my findings suggest that it is a miracle that Dating Diaries is around to deliver a little sanity to this minefield of baffling dating ideas!

If I may draw your attention to this week's Dating Diaries title, 'Make him fall in love with you in 90 minutes'. This particular piece of journalism was found in an extremely well known ladies glossy magazine, which I shall not name. This piece offers diamond encrusted advice such as 'Match and Mirror him - when he moves his left hand, you move your right. When he leans forward, you do too, and when he crosses his legs, cross yours'. Amused at trying to picture this seated, synchronised Torvil and Dean attempt at body language flirtation, I pondered on whether there is someone out there that has ever tried to follow this advice?

I am a man. I write this column from the perspective of a man, and I would like to make one thing very clear. If you behave as instructed above, towards a potential male love interest, a couple of things will happen. Firstly, he will probably not notice, and if by some miracle he does, he will be completely and utterly 'freaked' out by this copy cat behaviour, perhaps even amused to the point where he may attempt some Yoga moves to test the extent of your dedication.

Reading on, another comment confidentially followed, 'Science has proved that 90 minutes is the perfect time frame to get two hearts pounding to a single beat'. Ladies reading this, I can assure you that this is not the case, unless you happen to meet the single version of Donny Osmond cross bred with Cliff Richard at his most holiness.

Here is a thought, why don't you just see if you get along?

Most guys are genuinely scared about the process of chatting to any woman, unless you include their mother or perhaps Lorraine Kelly. Make him feel comfortable in your presence, and not by imitating his movements!

You can't and don't have to 'make chemistry', it is not the love equivalent of a soufflé, it's just exists, like the aging process or Jody Marsh. Forcing chemistry makes guys look stupid, over confident & a little bit like Darren Day in his hey-day & women, well let's just murmur the name Jordan.

To give credit where credit's due, I did find some rather useful advice that I would recommend. These include, 'Spread the word' by letting people know that you are single, 'Ditch the shopping list' meaning try and not be so fussy, and also, my favourite, 'Try Finite dating' whereby you give an hour of your time to men or women that you would usually say 'no' to or overlook. How else do you think Julia Roberts met and married Lyle Lovett?

Make 2010 and you're dating life work for you. Employing a wonderful football term (apt after talking about 90 mins I think), if you keep getting yourself into the right positions, eventually you will score. Start worrying when you aren't getting in the right positions.